Day 3

Day 3

Love is not selfish

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor.---Romans 12:10

Today's Dare: As well as not saying anything negative today, buy your spouse something that's says "I was thinking of you today."

This was a lot harder than I thought that it was going to be. I mean I am always getting Kal things that I think that he will like just because. There is really never a reason other than I was thinking about him. This dare happened to fall on a day that I was out running errands with some ladies from church. I thought to myself, "Perfect I will just get something at one of the stores when we go". Well it did not happen the way I planned. This concept should not surprise me anymore because when God is in charge nothing happens the way that you plan it or the way that you feel it should go. You would think that I would remember that. Every time we went to a new store, walking in, I thought about what I could get him. I know that he likes his magazines and I thought about getting one of those but really thinking about it I was unsure of the names and if he already had that issue. I didn't want to re buy one that he already had. So my thoughts on that were sort of out the window. Now what? The rest of my day happened.

A very good friend of mine...one of my best friends...is going through a bit of a rough time. Her ex-mother-in-law, Lana, recently found out that she has brain cancer. If that isn't hard enough, my friend had been diagnosed with brain cancer almost 11 years ago. She was granted a MIRACLE! There is NO doubt in any of our minds about that. She was getting all the information about what type of cancer Lana had. It turns out that she has an Astrocytoma. For those who I interested in that I found this info. Just the basics.

Astrocytomas are the most common glioma, and can occur in most parts of the brain (and occasionally in the spinal cord). Astrocytomas originate from cells called astrocytes and are most commonly found in the main part of the brain, the cerebrum. People can develop astrocytomas at any age, though they are more common in adults.

If that isn't hard enough to deal with my friend found out that she had what is called GMB. Which stands for: Glioblastoma multiforme. Here is a little info one that.

Glioblastoma multiforme (grade IV astrocytoma) is the most common and most malignant of the primary brain tumors. Glioblastoma multiforme usually spreads quickly to other parts of the brain. For this reason, these tumors are difficult to treat. It is not uncommon for them to recur after initial treatment.

She knew that was hard. Then she looked up the info online and talked to her mother who is a nurse and found out this info: The extremely infiltrative nature of this tumor makes complete surgical removal impossible. Even after surgery, chemo and radiation that the longest someone as lived after all that is 2.5 years.

Wow that is a lot to take in. Considering that just 10 years prior my friend was diagnosed with almost the exact same cancer. She didn't have GMB but it is still cancer.

You might be asking yourself what this has to do with the days dare...I am getting to that.

So Lana learned of her tumors on Sunday and Wednesday afternoon she had her surgery. I called my friend to let her know that I was here for her. I offered that after dinner I would be more than willing to take her back to the hospital so that she could see Lana after her surgery. My friend had surgery and she is the only person in that family who knows EXACTLY how Lana was feeling and what she was going through and how the road ahead would be. She took me up on my offer. I am happy to say that by the time we got to the hospital Lana was out of surgery, talking, alert and using all limbs. GOD IS AMAZING. He is the ultimate healer.

So where and I going with this....I knew that I was supposed to buy something for Kal but I felt that I was led to help my friend. It made me wonder if I do not care as I should for my husband. I think I do. I think that during out marriage Kal has come to realize that I am just helpful. If you ever need me, I am there. I tend to drop the things that I am doing to help. If you ask me for something I rarely say no. I have never put my own needs in front of someone else's. If there is ever a need that needs to be met...regardless of who it is...and I am able....I will fill it.

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.

Philippians 2:3

At 9:30pm last night I was on my way home and stopped at the grocery store. I bought a bag of generic Doritos (thought he would like to try) and 2 liter of soda. I handed the bags to Kal when I got home just after 10pm and told him that I was thinking of him. He ate the chips and drank his drink and was very happy. Oh and I was thinking that we went to dinner and we were supposed to share fries and he ate the ALL and I didn't complain so is that not giving him something too....?