He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him---Proverbs 27:14
Today's Challenge: As your spouse to tell you three things that cause him to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so with out attacking them or justifying your behaviour. This is from their perspective only.
When I first read this, I thought to myself "Are you kidding me?" This book seriously wants me to ask how I make my husband uncomfortable or irritated?". I am so not doing that. There is nothing that he was going to say that we had not talked about before. And if he gets to tell me three things I want to tell him about 300. I thought that was fair. Then I got to thinking about this one. I am not sure if the way that I took this challenge was the intent of the authors but I took it as this is a chance for me to really hear three things from my husband without getting upset or have my feelings hurt. I think that there was a bit of safety in that for the both of us. He only came up with one thing and that is fine. I understand and I completely agree with him. I know that I make him irritated sometimes and I hope that he realizes that he does the same to me. We are not perfect people but I think that we have a great line of communication open and we are able to talk about anything together.
This was a favorite paragraph from the book:
If you're thinking that your spouse-not you-is the one who needs work in this area, you're likely suffering from a bad case of ignorance, with a secondary condition of selfishness.
I think that about sums it up.
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